It Pays to be Nice

Tonight I met with a couple to discuss plans for their home’s renovation.

Following a warm welcome and a quick introduction, I was told that I was called to this meeting because of my mother. If you are a regular reader of my Living Well in Westchester blog, you know that my Mom and Dad live way up north in a house on the St. Lawrence River. So, how could it be that my Mom had any influence on my meeting with these people?

Well, it all comes down to the power of nice.

A couple of years ago, I wrote a few words to honor my Mom. After 25 years of working for Paramus Public Schools, she was retiring and her closest friends arranged a small party for her. The theme of my speech was the power of being nice.

I shared my speech on Living Well and on that day in 2008, a Google Alert for “being nice” was automatically sent to a contributor of a book titled The Power of Nice. She read what I had posted and decided to file my name for future reference, knowing that she would soon want to renovate her home.

It pays to be nice… and there’s some more proof for you.


3 Responses to “It Pays to be Nice”

  1. 1 iamforchange September 1, 2010 at 9:40 PM

    That’s a very nice post… Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  2. 2 Randy Deutsch AIA, LEED AP September 2, 2010 at 10:37 AM


    GREAT story. Thank you for sharing it!

    I guess this would fall under The Power of Nice Principle #2 (p.8 from the book):

    You Never Know

    Congratulations on the potential commission and best to you,


  3. 3 Ted Pratt September 2, 2010 at 5:09 PM

    Great reminder to those of us in this “service industry” that whatever we do or say will come back to us. If we want good things for ourselves, professionally and personally we need to be mindful of others and have empathy for them.

    I live in San Francisco, a very small town indeed, I learned many years ago the importance of never burning a bridge. For one never knows where the next referral will come from. Your article is a great example of this principle.

    Thanks for the timely reminder.

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